Why is my baby crying?

Its the sound that mums and dads hate to hear.

The sound of your bub crying.

It can send you into a panic, raise your anxiety, or sky rocket your stress levels to the moon.  Especially if you don’t know why or can’t figure out why your bub is wailing.

When I discuss crying with my clients I ask them these questions first:

When you hear your bub cry what is the first emotion that comes to you?  make it stop

What does that emotion resonate inside you?

Do you know how you were responded to as a child when you cried?

What if each time you hear your child cry, you were able to switch that emotion around to calmness instead of anxiety?

As you know crying is one way your baby communicates.

Crying is also a late sign of hunger, overtiredness and over stimulation. Simple things such as a wet nappy, tags on clothes, a hair wrapped around a finger can irritate.

I also say to approach any crying with curiosity. Take a breath and listen to the cry and understand what your baby is trying to communicate to you. 

Babies arrive in the world with the ability to express feelings and reactions using a preverbal language of nine innate signals.

These are expressed through a combination of facial expressions, sounds and body language. From birth the following signals are a child’s language of need and want:

-interest                                                                     -anger

-enjoyment                                                                -fear

-surprise                                                                     -shame

-distress                                                                     -disgust

-anger                                                                         -dis-smell

So you have eliminated hunger, a wet or dirty nappy, teething and definitely not sick so what else can you consider?

  1. Your baby is crying because she’s too hot/ or too cold. Yes they do cry about this. Some babies are REALLY sensitive to their environment- well actually all babies are. Ideal room temp is 18-22 c for sleeping, and make sure you use a togged wrap/swaddle/sleeping bag to prevent night time chills or over heating.
  2. Your baby is crying because she wants a cuddle. She has spent 9 months inside, and simply needs some human touch.  If your bub has slept through the night she will have a little petrol tank of touch that needs to be filled up.  Nurturing touch is how we communicate as well. Sometimes all is needed is a hand placed on her tummy just to tell her she is not alone. It reassures our bubs they are safe and secure.
  3. Your baby is crying because she has wind pain. Undeveloped digestive tracts are sensitive, so wind pain does occur. Learn different winding techniques to help your baby. Baby massage techniques really help with this. The colic routine, cycling legs, and identifying upper wind and lower wind can also help. Also be aware that over tired baby’s can appear as if they have wind.
  4. Your baby is having a growth spurt. Growth spurts can make your bub unsettled. Sometimes they sleep less as they practice their new found development. Become familiar with your baby’s milestones so that you can support them through them. Often they need to feed more, and cuddle more. These often cause sleep regression.
  5. Your baby is overstimulated. Learning your baby’s personality does take some time. Some bubs are easily distractable, and are sensitive to the smallest change immediately. If your baby is calm natured they will tolerate their environment for much longer than a baby that is more highly spirited. Notice if your bub is sensitive to light, noise and smell. Often to much stimulation will stress and over whelm your baby. Sometimes it is actually accumulative. So your bub might start the day well, but by the end of a busy “out” day loses the plot at 9pm at night by having a screaming melt down. They might need an extra quite, dark, soothing environment to help that little neural system calm down.
  6. Your baby is simply overtired.  The MAIN reason for crying and often completely missed by parents. Baby’s that are over tired, simply don’t just fall asleep. They need help from us to switch their little brains from “over alert” to snooze. The easiest way to prevent over tiredness is to know the age appropriate awake time for your baby, and what the recommended hours your child needs sleep wise. One of the most common comments I get is “I didn’t realize exactly how much sleep she needs”.

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[ARTICLE] Queensland Mothers Go To Extreme Lengths to Avoid Caesarean Births: The Courier Mail February 2016

PREGNANT women who feel they are being bullied into C-sections at local hospitals are driving hundreds of kilometres or taking flights to other centres so they can deliver naturally. courier feb 16

Midwives believe there is alarmism at some facilities about the risks of a ruptured uterus, hysterectomy and even stillbirth if a woman has a vaginal birth after a C-section.

Veteran midwife Amanda Bude reports many clients have become more discerning and are travelling for hours so they can deliver their babies the way they choose.

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Safe Infant Sleep Tips For Grandparents

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Its the event of the year!  The first night your LO is having a “SLEEP OVER”, at grandma and grandpas!  So amid the excitement of (escape/ dash for freedom), you realize that its time to set up the space where your baby is going to sleep. So here are some tips to consider when THAT day finally arrives:

1.: What is your baby going to sleep in? Unfortunately now days sadly THAT cot that you slept in 15 years ago that has been pulled out of the garage and lovingly been dusted off might not make the current safety standards for your bub. It might be time to invest in a modern day port-a-cot.  According to Choice Magazine here are some tips to consider:

What to look for

Good ventilation

Each side should be mostly made from a breathable mesh material that extends all the way to the floor of the cot.

Weight matters

Don’t use a portable cot if your child weighs more than 15kg.

Well designed

Inside surfaces should be free of bumps, ledges and protruding parts so children can’t hit their heads, get their clothing snagged or use them as a foothold to climb out of the cot.

No gaps

The mattress should be firm enough and fit snugly without gaps on any side.

Sturdy

The rails should have two locking mechanisms to prevent accidental collapse and closure. The cot floor shouldn’t sag. Press down on the base to check this.

Standards matter

Check that the portable cot you buy is certified to the Australian/New Zealand Standard, AS/NZS 2195 – either the 1999 or 2010 version.

Easy to put up and take down

The easier it is to put up and down, the better. You don’t want to be struggling when you’re sleep-deprived and have a tired, crying baby on your hands.

Not too heavy

Despite “porta” being in the name, many portacots are still quite heavy, with some clocking in at over 14kg. Make sure you are able to lift and carry it comfortably.

Compact

Check what size it is when it’s packed down. You’ll want to store it away until your next adventure so choose one that’ll fit the bill (or, more to the point, your cupboard).

2. Remind Grandma and Grandpa, that unless your bub is rolling that they must sleep on their back, with no additional blankets for “warmth”. Modern swaddles and togged sleeping bags can be a new addition to knowlege so some education on room temp is ideal here.

3. A little reminder that even though bub looks “lonely” in the portacot, that your little one does not need additional soft toys to keep her “company” whilst she is sleeping.

4. If your toddler is out of a cot then sometimes a mattress on the floor instead of a “big bed” is a easier and safer option to begin with.

5. To really have a “baby proofing” look around the room your child will be sleeping in (ok and the house- beware the glass coffee table).  Look for loose cords, power point plugs, items that can been pulled of shelves or book cases.

6. Do a test run- either at your house or at the grand parents house, so they are familiar with your bubs bedtime routine/ comforts, and also for your baby to get used to where he/she is going to be.

You want this to be a repeat performance!

 

 

[ARTICLE] Scientists Uncover Genetic Variations that Influence Sleep: The Courier Mail, February 2016

THERE is no such thing as waking up on the wrong side of the bed — if you are grumpy in the mornings it’s not your fault, it’s in your genes.

That is the finding of scientists who have uncovered ­genetic variations which make some people more inclined to bounce out of bed early and go to bed early, while others can only get themselves going on a later cycle.

Gold Coast sleep specialist Amanda Bude said the research will give health professionals more insight into treating sleep problems.

“Sleep is a necessity, not a luxury. If you know that you are not a morning person you can adjust your schedule to get the best out of your body,” she said.

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[ARTICLE] When your partner misses the birth: Essential Baby February 2016

Midwife Amanda Bude says it’s not that common for partners to miss their baby’s birth, but still recommends having a ‘contingency plan’.

She advises having a second and third ‘back-up’ person in case you go into labour while your partner’s away. The back-up person can be a close friend, family member, doula or midwife.

That person should know what to bring to hospital if the time comes, and what you would like them to do during the birth (either be there and take videos or photos, or wait outside). Your support person should also know your birth plans.

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Read more: http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/birth/birth-stories/when-your-partner-misses-the-birth-20160208-gmocwq.html?&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=social&eid=socialn:fac-14omn0583-optim-nnn:paid-25062014-social_traffic-all-postprom-nnn-ebaby-o&campaign_code=nocode&promote_channel=social_facebook#ixzz3zZKNCm36

 

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